We Want to be Loved, but We Also Want This

This summer, two friends and I traveled to Springfield to see my favorite women’s speaker (no, it’s not Beth Moore). In addition to Lisa Harper’s seminary background, vast understanding of Scripture, and deep faith and humility, she captivates her audience with her vivid storytelling ability. However long she spoke that night was not long enough. I told my friends that I want to adopt her as my honorary aunt. I don’t have the space, nor your patience, to retell all that she spoke into my heart, but want to snag one seemingly insignificant phrase for illustrative purposes.

When she first skipped on stage, she declared herself a James River groupie, talking about how precious “The Sisterhood” was to her (their women’s ministry). Of course, the 4,000+ women clapped in a reciprocal welcome, but I just thought, “Yes, that’s it. We want to be loved, but we also to feel special.” We want to know that we are uniquely chosen and cherished, not just loved like all the others. I heard someone once teach–or maybe I read it in a book–that children want to be loved equally, but differently. This person encouraged parents to avoid the response of, “I love you all the same.” Perhaps semantics have made our meanings trip over our words, but I don’t want to feel like a number, or even one of many. I want to know that He loves me…sees me. Lisa closed the night by saying, “He doesn’t just tolerate you. He delights in you.” This sacred echo repeated the Father’s words to my heart; something He’s been trying to get me to absorb this year….or all my life. “Jesus loves me; this I [try] to know.”

No, I’m not only one of the many to Him. He left the 99 for that 1 lost sheep. Will He not do the same for me…for you? Not only am I just part of the group; not only am I merely a good girl among the masses, but He deliberately crafted me and distinctly called me. I am not nondescript, as I sometimes feel. I am not forgettable, for the Maker of the Universe set me in motion and numbers my days. I am not mediocre because HE made me. And amazing good news; you were created for a divine purpose as well.

1 Peter 2:9 puts our identity this way: “However, you are chosen people, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, people who belong to God. You were chosen to tell about the excellent qualities of God, who called you out of darkness into his marvelous light.”

Psalm 139:16 “You saw me before I was born. Every day of my life was recorded in your book. Every moment was laid out before a single day had passed.”

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