When Your Child Contemplates Death

In our house, death doesn’t stay in the taboo talk topics. Especially since my dad went Home to Jesus five years ago, the kids and I frequently discuss Heaven. Some people may assess our obsession as slightly morbid or imbalanced, but I think the opposite holds true. Losing sight of where we are going and why we are here will get us off track faster than anything else.

When we contemplate our secure future destination, we have renewed hope and perspective for the journey there. 

Over dinner one night this week, we envisioned leaving this earth behind, and what our tombstone epitaphs might say. The conversation went something like this:

“Corbin’s phrase would be ‘true.'” At age 4, his “catch word” was “Actually….” and I’m sure age 6 will bring new personalized syntax. But for now, the response word is often, “True.” We love it and love his inquisitive mind.

Aaron and I turned to our little laid-back Landon and asked him what would be written on his grave-marker. His response made us chuckle because it exactly captured his sentiment on life.

“I don’t know,” he replied.

We all got a hearty laugh out of that one because we hear that response from him several times a day.

Aaron and I are still pondering.

The conversation remained lighthearted and often silly, but taking a moment to ask ourselves the serious questions helps refocus our direction in life.

  • What would people say of me if I died tomorrow?

  • What would they write on my epitaph?

  • Would everything I’m working toward matter?

  • Where was my treasure stored?

  • Did I spend my time on worthwhile endeavors?


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“If you read history, you will find that the Christians who did most for the present world were just those who thought most of the next.”
― Randy Alcorn, Heaven

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