This Moment

Yesterday, my middle child came downstairs while I was fixing supper and wandered around. Knowing his love language is physical touch and he needed some attention, I asked if he wanted to snuggle. Exhausted from the day, I dropped to the couch, and he plopped on top of me. At 11, he’d probably be mortified that anyone knew he was being held by his mom–and I’m not looking for a debate about whether he is too old or not–but as I rubbed his back, I got to thinking, “This could be the last time I hold him.” He is getting bigger and holding my hand in public embarrasses him–understandably so. I kiss him, but he certainly doesn’t kiss me back. And I can’t remember the last time I sang him a song or rocked him.

I’m not a nostalgic person by nature; I don’t look back and reminisce. Probably because I get too excited about the future. I am usually projecting forward thoughts to goals and ideas and imagining possibilities. Social media has created this running banner of guilt-prone sentimentality that oozes with tenderness and shame. The underlying premise is, “You’ll miss this, so you better appreciate it!”

It’s true, I don’t remember the last time I read “Goodnight Gorilla” to Maddie (her favorite book growing up) or sang them a lullaby or kissed their pudgy cheeks or watched them dance with those diapered bums or squeal when daddy got home or hear their baby giggles. I don’t remember the last time I picked up my youngest or picked flowers with my daughter. Sweet memories, but I don’t miss those times.

I also don’t remember the last time I changed a poopy diaper or got up at 2:00 am to feed a baby. I don’t remember the last time I had to get juice for my child or bring a stroller to the park or make sure we were home by 8:00 for bedtime. I don’t remember the last high-chair meal where I had to feed by child. I don’t remember the last time I stressed over whether my infant slept on their stomach or back or how to wean them from a pacifier. I don’t remember the last time my child cried and I didn’t know what was causing them pain.

There is a last time for everything, and sometimes it’s a time to rejoice!

There’s also a first time for everything and that’s a time to rejoice too!

In just a few short years, I will be launching kids into adulthood, hoping and praying for their hearts and minds as they venture on their own.

For now, in this moment, I am enjoying life with them. Is every day idyllic? Not hardly–you make me laugh.

They are still being taught by their mom and dad, but gradually, they are learning to discern and make choices for themselves. As we equip them, they are having to choose. Will this be my parents’ way…my way…God’s way…and how do they align with truth–reality? Am I going to think for myself or let my peers push me, my culture shape me, the media teach me? Where does truth come from? How do I reason?

My kids are all different. I have a future thinker (always forward march!), a past thinker (hello, let’s move on already…), and a today-is-what-we-have kid. All bents have their strengths and their weaknesses, but as Scripture tells us, we are only promised today. Planning has its benefits, but we shouldn’t get too wrapped up in what we can’t control, and projecting our thoughts backwards doesn’t allow us to look at what God is doing in the here and now.

Isaiah 43:18-19, NIV Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past. See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it? I am making a way in the desert and streams in the wasteland.

Psalm 118:24, ESV This is the day that the LORD has made; let us rejoice and be glad in it.
Ephesians 5:15-16, NIV Be very careful, then, how you live – not as unwise but as wise, making the most of every opportunity…

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When we over-focus on the past, we get stuck. When we over-focus on the future, we get anxious. And both lead to purposeless distraction. We need to listen, respond, appreciate and move.

We have today; what can we do in this moment?

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