I Think I’ve Become THAT Person

The other day I was conversing with someone–the who isn’t really important because this issue carries across multiple relationships. Although we bounced around vital ideas and problems within culture, religion, relationships, and parenting, etc., our discourse was plagued with bleak analysis and critical dismay (over people and situations). And I got to thinking, what good […]

Comparison Kills

Although I appreciate the style, you’ll hardly ever see me wear my hair in a ponytail. Why? These little guys. My ears. In high school, my other insecurity was my height. I hit 5’9” at the age of 13 and my best friend peaked at 5’ 2”, so you can imagine the contrast. Not only […]

Dads, You ARE Appreciated

Bouncing around social media you’ll find all these blogs, videos, and memes encouraging moms, “You are doing great! Give yourself grace. Keep doing the hard stuff. You are amazing.” Etc. Etc. And then we dismiss or ignore the dads. Or worse yet, we applaud the moms and then beat fathers over the head, “You aren’t […]

When You Feel Forgotten

This admission embarrasses me, but in an attempt to certify my understanding, I’ll share it: as a kid I craved popularity. I didn’t just desire to be one of the “in” chicks, but I wanted to be liked by everyone. I wanted my parents to enjoy me as well as my peers. Maybe I craved […]

Dear College Student

Dear College Friend, Instrumental music plays in the background as I sit in a lounge chair in a building that didn’t even exist when I was here at this college (my alma mater). In an hour, I’ll head over to the BSU (Baptist Student Union) building for a worship service. Fourteen years have lapsed since […]

Power of an Envelope

As a little girl, I joined Focus on the Family‘s pen pal program and wrote to another girl in California. We swapped girly stickers and simple stories about our lives and anticipated each personal letter we’d receive in the mail. And though I can’t even recall her name now, I still remember the blissful excitement […]

Holding Accountable vs. Being Judgmental

Although we share core values and convictions, my husband and I were created with different personalities. He’s more compassionate and easy-going, while I tend to be more outspoken and critical. Sometimes I get tunnel vision and need his perspective to channel in my focus to the core truth. I have blind sides. We all do. […]

Caution: Authenticity vs. Oversharing

A few nights ago, I sat outside with some long-time friends, talking about kids and life. The question was posed, “How does a parent teach a child to be honest without disclosing too much (especially negative stuff) to everyone?” One friend shared this insight, “You have to discern whether the person asking ‘how you are’ […]